Learning through Death, Again
It was too much of a coincidence to remain silent. I am convinced the thing I have learned from my sister dying was that I have a responsibility to tell her story. So, I did. Continue Reading →
Tag Archives: Death
Four Years Ago
Here is the obligatory annual Cristi reflection. Not a day goes by where I don’t think of my late sister. Not a day goes by where I don’t stop to wonder what life would be like to grow older with the sister who was closest to my twin. Not a day goes by where I don’t stop to ponder where … Continue Reading →
May 13th Reflection
When I consider the date, I often think of her. It was her birthday. Now guilt too surrounds missing my nieces birthday which falls the day before. It’s poetic that our modem died on this day. I asked her on a few occasions: don’t you feel unlucky that your birthday could land on Friday the 13th? She simply answered, “Why … Continue Reading →
A Handmaid’s Tale
We are (wo)men. (Or Womyn if you prefer). Women and men. We are human. We are not God, god, or gods. We are imperfect. We make mistakes. We lose things. We forget things. We unintentionally (sometimes intentionally) hurt people. We crash things. We break things. We take too much money. We shortchange ourselves. We underestimate our time. We overestimate costs … Continue Reading →
Life: Not a Competition
Image by alexis22578 via Flickr This too shall pass. This phrase is one of my favorite. Why? Simply because it’s true. It doesn’t matter what is happening at any given moment at any time at any event: This too shall pass. Good, bad, horrible, indifferent, great, exciting, fascinating – it all passes into history, awaiting a new day with new … Continue Reading →
Daily Post: How Cristi’s Tombstone Made Me Think about Mine
Suggested topic: What do you want to be remembered for? Cristi’s death forced my hand on this question. Sure, I’ve had a few grandparents pass away, but when your peer, your sister dies “before her time” it makes you think about this topic a little bit more. I’ve blogged about it enough that if you’ve been keeping up, you know … Continue Reading →
My Grieving Process
My cousin, and for sake of simplicity, we’ll include my cousin-in-law, who this directly affects, in that part, “My Cousin.” She lost her sister. Just 13 days ago. I’m able to keep light tabs on them through facebook. From what I can see, there is no reason for her sister’s death. A young 30-something female, wife and mother, who just … Continue Reading →
Plans
“You know,” said my husband, “she would have been a good influence for Levi.” Yes, Cristi would have. Tonight, I found out my cousin’s sister in law, so my cousin’s WIFE’S sister died – at 33 years old. No reason. No explanation. Just died. Thirty three years old. My aunt and uncle lost a son (my aunt’s step son) when … Continue Reading →